Thursday, September 25, 2014

My First 2 Weeks in Bangalore

For someone that can often times get lost swimming in his thoughts, India is a place that yanks you right out of them. There is a lot to think about in making this transition. But any stubborn attempt to overindulge this tendency would require denying the clamoring and competing sensory messages hitting your brain, alerting you to the risk of getting hit by a car, or at the very least of missing the beauty of daily life in India. As soon as you step outside and start navigating your way through the roadside stalls lining the street on one side and the rickshaws, motorcycles and trucks on the other (because sidewalks aren’t the norm), you are alert. Layer that with the commotion of the business of the streets: conversations of a circle of men, smells of frying fish at a corner stall, the blending colors of a spread of trinkets and silk scarves, and lots and lots of honking. Even when your mind starts to wander and take you miles away, getting clipped by a motorcycle brings you right back. It took me a few seconds to realize what had hit my arm and by the time I looked up, the guy was driving off without an acknowledgement. Yep, I thought with a genuine smile, I am most certainly living in India.
Though living here, I am keenly aware I am a foreign addition to this corner of the world and the daily business and rituals of life. I am a participant but also an observer. I get to see intimate glimpses of the extraordinary ordinary from my balcony of the families below, washing clothes, talking over a smoke, and children playing. But when I am out walking, there isn’t that barrier and I get to interact, many times reacting to what happens on each different twist and turn. Though most everyone is in their own world, I catch some stares and peculiar glances. Some immediately know I am a Westerner, where still others mistake me as a Northern Indian. “Some of us first thought you were from Kashmir or something” a coworker said, and so must in the streets when I look blankly back at their inquiries in Kannada, the local language, so instead they switch to Hindi and await a response. Still the same blank stare and me pointing and ad-libbing “I want to try some dosas.”
I stay just off of a dirt road that connects to a main road that circles the city. The neighborhood has a lot of older residential developments, some in pastel color brick buildings, others fastened from tarps and metal sheets, but also newer multilevel apartments that cater to the influx of younger workers and their families that move to the city for work. Up till recently this was considered the outskirts of town, and though the villages still maintain their relative calm compared to the bustle of the main roads, everything has been swept up into Big Bangalore. Still the neighborhood I stay remains absent of all obvious encroachments of globalization that breed convenience and consumerism nor the “serenity” lifestyle the modern apartments advertise; none of the new malls and fast food. Everything here is served from street stalls and local restaurants that blend regional cuisine with Southern Indian influences. With one exception, a Papa John’s with their signature Tandoori chicken.
One my first day here, jetlagged and wanting a quick fix, I went in and walked out with a pizza, before asking a worker to point me to a liquor store, which he said was across the main road. I had to cross an intersection where two side roads, the highways, on ramps, and underpasses all came to merge, where water tankers, auto rickshaws, motorcycles, bicycles and carts moved in organized chaos with no street lights or crosswalk. I waited till I saw two men crossing and ran with them like an idiot carrying my pizza. As I made my way there several men joined me speaking and motioning to my pizza, one or two even attempting an air of friendliness as they reached to open the pizza box. All the while I made my way through the gathering group to the liquor store owner, motioning towards whiskey, paying with one hand and guarding my dinner in the other. He jumped over the counter and with some exchanges and laughs, he shooed the pizza cravers away from me, slapping one in the face. He turned to me and told me to go, I was causing too much of a scene. As I made my way back home replaying the event, I settled to eat my pizza on the balcony. I slid the sliding door shut behind me to keep mosquitoes out of the apartment, immediately realizing there was no handle on the outside and I was locked out on the balcony, three stories up. I started yelling and waving to get the gardeners attention below, one just waved his hands and walked away from me because he did not understand what I wanted. Finally I managed to stop another staff that, though he didn’t speak English, was able to understand me through my hand motions and shouts that something was wrong. He motioned that he was going to get help. I waited and waited, decided against kicking in the glass, and just sat on the ground eating my pizza, and couldn’t help but laugh. This was the first moment it sunk in. I am far from home. Day 1.
This past Sunday I woke up in the early morning to meet my coworkers outside my apartment in a caravan of mopeds and motorcycles, on the way to watch their cricket game. I hopped on the back of one of the motorcycles and we weaved in and out of the Sunday morning traffic, until it opened up on the outskirts of town and the cars became cattle and children playing. I started drinking coffee for the first time last week since senior year finals, I am not sure what exactly brought about that, but I decided to pass on a cup this morning. I was still yawning when I got on the back of my friends bike. But I woke up from all the morning air hitting me in the face and with my head on a swivel and gripping the side bars in a death grip, I could do nothing but smile. When I want to have my thought I can go out on the balcony (careful to keep the door open) overlooking the cluster of homes below that circle a courtyard. But on rides like this, I will save the daydreaming, over-thinking and processing for later.


A man walks down the street
It's a street in a strange world 
...
He doesn't speak the language
He holds no currency
He is a foreign man
He is surrounded by the sound
The Sound
Cattle in the martketplace
Scatterlings and orphanages
He looks around, around
He sees angels in the architecture
Spinning in infinity
He Says Amen! and Hallelujah!
                - Paul Simon, Call Me Al

Thursday, September 18, 2014

Week Leading Up

This is my first blog entry since a compulsory college assignment senior year. I make no promises about the makeup of the proceeding passages, especially any grammar flaws. I am in my mid twenties and the few promises I have made carry a lot of weight and will behind them. I cannot guarantee anything about the frequency, my transparency or any overarching structure in the following ramblings. Only that this the cliche thing to do when you move abroad. And I am at a point in life where I am reconnecting with my writing. Lastly, I have people in my life, self included, that are not entirely social media savvy or inclined and this seems the most effective way to communicate with them when I move to India. Besides its impossible to convey your experiences over weeks and months without a form of communication. When I came back from a year of volunteering in Denver, I got tired of "oh that's right, what were you doing again?" and me "I was a volunteer teacher," and the "oh wow that's cool." I'm writing for myself but to share my story with those I love...


Since I found out I would be moving to India for six months just a little over a month ago, there has been a range of emotions and unforeseen changes that I can only draw parallels to the knots I had leaving my home in Southern California to go to college outside Boston. That was six years ago to the week. I have been leaning on my friends and family as I navigate this transition. Of all the words that have poured in, some just right, some way off, some too soon, and silence from one who I needed support, one of the best came from a friend in Chicago: Just pack your bags. Focus on what you need to back in the next 8 days. Just get yourself there. That is all you need to do right now.

The 13 months of my life have been the most stationary since I was in high school. Just a few months back I moved into my old room that I had not lived alone in since I was 2. After several years of paring down my stuff, I decorated it with discarded posters and books. And on summer afternoons I would play the Beach Boy records and repeat the song "In My Room." Now the bags are coming out from under my bed and I am moving again.

As I pack I am replaying the words of one of my volunteer director's who I spoke with last week. I called him to tell him of the recent developments in my life, pausing to reflect how it has been two years now since moving to Denver and meeting him outside in the garden with a rake in hand  on move in day. You are not going there alone, he said. You are taking everyone that has played a part in your life with you. Even the people who you want to know so badly what their role will turn out to be. I am carrying those stories, and I thought immediately of the kindergartners now second graders I taught and that I miss in Denver.

In the little over two years since college, the anxiety I had entering the final semester about my future seems like a distant inner struggle. I could not have imagined my life in Denver, falling in love, meeting my goddaughter, and even moving home and feeling like my life was on pause at times.

I'm ready for a shakeup, and though the plans I have made around people, a place and a passion have not changed, I know from the risks I have taken in my life that this is exactly what I am suppose to be doing. As much I am trying to get my life in order, if there were such a thing, before leaving, student loans, banking, the cell phone situation, RELATIONSHIPS etc. as I look at my backpack in the corner of the room, I am letting go a little of my desire to control and know. Instead choosing to lean forward and hope.

This past weekend I spent the entire time with my family and a few friends at Carlsbad beach camping, with a vantage point from the coastal bluffs dotted in sage brush and of the sunsets each night after spending the entire day on the beach below. My dad and I discovered each day a handful of Velella velella's or "by-the wind sailors." These jellyfish like creatures that fit in the palm of your hand, that look like a translucent cobalt-blue Lay's chip, with a sail on top. They have been washing up in the thousands on So. Cal beaches all summer. They have no propulsion system, and I say they because each one is a colony of microorganisms that band to form this alien vessel. They rely solely on the sail they form to go with the current and wind. As these shift they can end up washed up on shore, or across the world. Submission to fate. Just passing through. "Imagine?" My dad said as we held one and if wasn't for the NPR story I heard about them, would have thought it was a plastic wrapper of some sort. "What a hell of a way to live."



So this little velella velella is off for now. But not without taking me the image of sitting by the campfire Saturday night with my niece in my arms, slouched over and mesmerized by the fire, exhausted by a day of laughs running along the tide. She was running her little fingers over the watch on my arm and all I could hear was the crackling of the wood and roar of the waves below. Time is a most peculiar thing.